The greatest salesmen on earth

I have just become increasingly annoyed to the point of wishing that violence was OK by listening to yet another TED talk.

Sometimes I do indeed find them as exhilarating, moving, educational or inspiring as touted, mostly when that happens they are non American talks.

Most of what TED does as far as I can see is continue and expand the work done by Coca cola, Pepsi, MacDonald's, which is selling the most repulsive, destructive, superficial, non humanitarian culture on Earth as not only normal but necessary and good.
I live in the Netherlands, increasingly I realise that one of the reasons I feel so ambiguously towards the land, it's people and it's culture, - swinging between utter loathing, dissatisfied contentment, grudging admiration and crushing contempt - is that WASP the epitome of desirability in US culture is actually 'The Dutch or Netherlanders' -
White - ain't they just and proud of it! To this day it doesn't matter if you and your parents (or grandparents in some cases) were born here if you ain't white they do not consider you to be Dutch.
Anglo Saxon - do I need to elucidate this point really?
Protestants - oh yeah Calvin may have been a German but it was here in the Netherlands and further North in Scandinavia that his ideas founded their deepest roots and became indistinguishable from the people/cultures.
Calvinism/Protestantism represents the antithesis of my beliefs of why we are here, what our lives are for, how we should strive to live them. It is a beloved foundation of ecocide, genocide, racism, homophobia, misogyny, capitalism, chauvinism in all it's forms, white supremacism and most of the current ills of the world.
One question definitenly worth considering in terms of the protestant faith is what would Calvin have preached with a healthier diet and less illness?
Charles L Cooke shares - most as the preacher himself detailed - Calvin's illnesses in his article "Calvin's illnesses and thier relation to Christian vocation" in thebook "John Calvin and the Church: A Prism of Reform" 
He was plagued with pleurisy which turned into tuberculosis with hemoptysis, intestinal parasites probably accompanied by blood loss leading to anaemia and weakness, in all likelihood thrombosed hemorrhoids, irritable bowel or colon syndrome and migraines, all exacerbated by him only eating one meal a day.
An opinionated, driven, workaholic, living in Northern Europe in constant pain would seem to be unlikely to come up with a philosophy of positivity, kindness, love and gentleness. What do you know - he didn't!
Back to the TED talks. What seems to begin as an examination or a holding up of the culture to criticism inevitably turns into self praise and aggrandizement.
Listening to the guy who made super-size me talk about 'The Greatest Movie Ever Made" which actually is just a parody of itself that changes, achieves and demonstrates nothing except how up their own arses and completely sold on themselves the makers and their culture are.
That they are allowed to make a BBC program which is ultimately another big sell of the usual crap is an example of the depths to which the BBC has sunk in it's desire to get as into the bowels of the US as they can.
They are going to examine branding, look critically at it. No what they do is tell us that it is good because it makes us feel good and it makes us feel good because they tell us it does. I do not fit a single one of their descriptions of 'how people are."
NO, I do not get pleasure from something JUST because it is expensive.
You don't have to believe me. I lost my best job ever as the editor of a fashion magazine because I couldn't understand (or stop asking) why something flimsy and synthetic was automatically better (because of the designer) than something made from a natural fibre. I'd feel the cloth and go
"Ugh, it's synthetic." I understand super expensive clothing in silk, linen, cotton, satin, etc. I can't quite get with the bamboo production process, I can totally relate to the idea of wanting a fabric made from a natural product*. We can't have hemp but we can have any (all) synthetics that women put against their skin? Does my head in.
No, I don't like coke or pepsi or any of those murky brown, sugary, fizzy drinks unless they are loaded with dark rum, lemon/lime juice and ice and then I really don't care which one it is. but people (especially Americans) usually know which brand it is.
I think there are plenty of sekts that are better than the top champagnes and a few cavas that could compete. Some of those Russian ones are to die for. While everyone else seems to insist that French Champagne is the one and only, best thing on the planet. Of course it is very likely that I have never had a 'really good' champagne.
Everything made in the US has too much sugar in for me - that super sweetness  tastes off. From the bread  to the pasta anything. I can't get over that even the savoury food is too sweet. Same with salt.
Fashion is bollox. There is no way my body is ever going to look good in 99.9% of what designers draw. Not possible, it is not the way it is taught. There is one shape, to which all fashion designs are aimed.it's ridiculous.

I have a woman’s body and not one of the acceptable standard ones! Am I gonna hate my body? Well of course I do. But not enough to starve, exercise or cut it to try and make it fit crippling minimum requirements.
Is my body a temple? Sometimes, not every day. I'm working on that.
It does seem that research would suggest that I am an anomaly.
 When my daughter set up a set of experiments on taste as in the sense, rather than the aesthetic ideas. What is it? How does it work? What affects it?  The 'tests' included brands, blind testing, heat, cold, eat of the taste areas, salt, sweet, bitter, astringent, omami. Her observation, before, during and after was that the single most determining factor in taste (in her peer group) was the opinions of others. Which would tie in with what the TED people say.
But I think it has more to do with a society that covertly punishes any who do not conform. With blatant disapproval and ostracism.

*http://textilefashionstudy.com/difference-between-natural-fiber-and-synthetic-fiber/

Alwareness 'Love' in Englsh

Percy our awareness coach has said that love is an energy, a binding power, the basis, the source of life. I would agree that love could be called all of these things. Often it is what people feel when they describe their feelings about love.
As far as I'm concerned love is one of the most misused words and ideas. Love is used by people as an excuse to sleep with the partner of a best friend. Love is a word that some use when they beat their children of partner and it is certainly heard by many women in the sex industry as the reason their pimps exploit them.
All you need is love. No way. You can hate me, if you offer when needed a warm meal or a roof or even a conversation or some contact. Love is not really necessary except for a baby in the first weeks of life, after that even for a baby other things become much more important.
Do you really love someone if you all unknowingly poison them with refined sugars. In the NL they say that love is felt via the stomach. If I see so called children's meals in most restaurants I read at best ignorance and at worst abuse.
Is it love when men only want women who have to be perpetually hungry to be 'beautiful, women who damage their ankles, knees, hips and back by only wearing high heels. Women who have been in constant, physical pain so long they don't even feel it. No pain, no gain in the beauty stakes.
"De mantel der liefde erover' roughly translated 'spread the cloak of love over it', rather than being honest or open or risking the possibility of a disagreement. Yes, sometimes being honest or open means being open to being hurt but, in a society that deals out pain on a daily basis, whey avoid this one?
In love is Eros, which is an completely different place that loving which one can call agape.
Last week I went with a friend to pick up her four year old daughter. The daughter said to me "I love you"I had to laugh because within five minutes sheś said the same about her play group, a building her dad and then me again.
I don't want any more of that love in a world where those who love their country find that fact a good reason the murder anyone else who feels the same about another country. People who are in love with someone think they have murdered them for 'understandable' reasons. Or because people are in love they want to sign a slave contract that makes their beloved their legal possession, also known as marriage.
Last week was Valentines Day a tradition that I grew up with, although how it was celebrated in the UK in my youth is completely different from the U.S version which probably now dominates. I'm not going to discuss that now. I brought it up to say that the current obsession with finding or being in a monogamous 'romantic' relationship is like a sickness. Especially because I do not understand how you can be in love with someone and then some time later want/wish or  do them harm.
I don't get how women deny their children access to the father (they chose for them) and vise versa. Or than men leave their children en even focus or become fathers for their children of their new partners while they ignore their biological children.
The opposite of love is indifference. Hate is the opposite of projection or the result of a disappointed ego. If your love turns into hate, you never loved in the first place. Love can turn into disappointment or pain or anger but none of those are an automatic path to hatred. You may want to avoid or ignore an ex to protect your self. If you make hateful actions, it was not love.
The father of my daughter doesn't want anything to do with him. I understand completely. However I know why I loved him and how that felt and I wish him only happiness in his life especially with his new partner.
Even the scumbag liars who stole from me or hit me just allow me to see and understand that it was my inability to love myself, which prevented me from allowing good people to come to me. Those people have condemned themselves. The universal energetic law is cause and effect. What goes around comes around. What you do unto others will be done to you. By being aware that this is an immutable and irreversible law we can make sure that all that comes to us is fantastic.

My first Dutch language column - Liefde voor Alwareness - bound to be mistakes, forgive me!

Percy is een inspiratie, zo ik heb tijd genomen om te luisteren wat hij heeft gezegt in de laatste afleveringen. Hij zegt dat liefde een energie is, een verbindende kracht, de basis, de bron van het leven. Daar ben ik het niet mee oneens al die dingen kunnen liefde genoemde worden. Vaak is dat wat mensen voelen en beschrijven als ze t over liefde hebben.

Voor mij is liefde is een van de meest misgebruikte woorden en ideen. Liefde wordt gebruikt door mensen als smoes om met de partner of man van een beste vriend(in) naar bed te gaan.

Liefde is het wordt dat mensen gebruiken als ze hun kinderen of partner slaan, en zeker veel gehoord door vrouwen in de sex industrie als de reden hum pimps hun opofferen.

All wat je nodig hebt? All you need is love? Echt niet. Je mag me haten als je een warme maaltijd of een dak of zelfs soms een conversatie, wat contact aanbied. Liefde hoeft echt niet. Behalve voor een baby in de eerste paar weken van z'n leven, daarna zijn veel andere dingen belangrijker

Hou je echt als je al onwetend iemand vergiftigd met snoep en geraffineerd suikers? Liefde gaat door de maag zeggen ze hier. Als ik een kindermaaltijd lees in een restaurant zie ik op z'n best verwaarlossing en op z'n ergste misbruik.

Is het liefde als mannen vrouwen willen die altijd honger moet hebben zodat ze mooi zijn, die hun enkels, knieen, heupen en rug beschadigen door hoge hakken te dragen?Vrouwen die niet meer beseffen dat ze altijd pijn hebben want 'no pain, no gain' in the beauty stakes.

De mantel der liefde erover? In plaats van eerlijkheid of open zijn of ruzie krijgen. Ja soms betekend dat open voor pijn. Maar in een maatshippij die sowiso pijn dagelijks uitdeelt waarom deze pijn niet?

In love of verliefdheid is eros, dat is een heel ander geberutneis dan houden van dat agape wordt genoemd.

Waarom hebben we zo weinig woorden voor zulk verschillend emoties of zijn ze echt allemaal hetzelfde?

Vorig week ging ik met met een vriedin haar 4 jarige dochter ophalen. Haar dochter zei 'Lennie I love you” ik moest erom lachen want binnen 5 minuten zei ze hetzelfde over haar speelgroep, een gebouw, haar papa en dan weer over mij.

Ik wil geen liefde meer in deze wereld want mensen die liefde voor hun land hebben vinden dat een goede reden om andere die hetzelfde voelen te vermoorden. Mensen die liefde hebben voor iemand willen en gaan ook moord plegen voor een heleboel verstandig? redenen. Of ze willen een slaaf contract tekenen dat hun geliefde tot hun wettelijk bezit maakt. Dit woordt ook wel huwelijk genoemd

Net was het Valentijnsdag, een traditie waar ik mee ben opgegroied. In het Verenigd Koninkrijk is het iets heel anders dan in de Verenigde Staten maar daar ga ik nu niet op in. Ik wilde alleen maar zeggen dat onze obessie met een monogaame relatie hebben is voor mij een ziekte gewoorden.

Zeker omdat ik niet begrijp hoe je kan geloven dat je van iemand hebt gehouden als je enige tijd later kwaad wenst of doet tegen de ander. Dat vrouwen hun kinderen de vader weigeren te laten zien. Dat mannen hun kinderen vaak achter laten of zelfs op de kinderen van hun nieuwe liefde richten terwijl ze hun biologische kinderen negeren.

Het tegenovergestelde van liefde is onverschilligheid, niets voelen. Haat is de tegenovergesteld van projectie of het resultaat van een teleurgesteld ego. Als je van liefde naar haat overgaat was het nooit liefde. Je kan van liefde naar teleurstelling, of pijn, of woede gaan maar geen van die gevoelens duwt een mens naar haat. Je kan de andere willen vermijden of negeren om je eigen gevoelens te beschermen. Als je haat acties uitvoerd heb je geen liefde gevoeld.

De vader van mijn dochter wil niets met mij te maken hebben. Ik kan hem het niet kwalijk nemen. Maar toch weet ik precies waarom ik van hem hield en hoe dat voelde en ik wens hem alleen maar geluk in zijn leven, ook met z'n nieuwe vriendin. Zelf die scumbag leugernaars die van mij hebben gestolen of die mij sloeg enz zie ik dat die relaties over mijn onmogelijkheid om van mezelf te houden gingen en daardoor geen goede persoon kon toelaten. Die mensen hebben zichzelf veroodeeld tot ellende. Want de univeresele energetische wet is oorzaak en gevolg. What goes around comes around. En wij kunnen door hiervan bewust te zijn ervoor zorgen dat wat naar ons toe komt fantastische is.